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The first time that I told my mother that I had an eating disorder was during a therapy session while I was in treatment. I shared that I had been purging since I was 12 and how hard its all been dealing with everything…. I was raw and vulnerable, pouring out my guts and telling all of my painful secrets. Meanwhile, my mother maintained her “we’re in front of company” voice… you know, the one you might hear had she been on a job interview or conducting business over the phone. I could tell how hard it was for her to hear these things for the first time, in front of a stranger, but I had to say the words. I had to tell her “I’m not okay” over and over so that it could be real for the both of us. But we were there in front of my therapist (read nice white girl that seemed a little young) in a nice room, so the best that I could get from my mom was nice. I ugly cried and she was nice, I screamed at her at the top of my lungs (because I clearly must have forgotten myself ) and she continued to be nice, barely raising her voice.
Black girls don’t have eating disorders, at least not in my family. We may eat too much or feel insecure about our weight, but its not really that big of a problem, certainly not an illness. No one ever said those words to me but somehow they were an unspoken part of my narrative, so much so that when I started binging and purging as a preteen I didn’t think anything of it. I was a chubby black girl in a family full of appropriately curvy women and according to my mom “ I was beautiful no matter how much I weighed”
Bulimia just about destroyed my life in every way. I dropped out of high school because I was always “sick” and couldn’t keep up with my advanced classes. By the time I was 17 I had my GED and resolved to make up for my failure by excelling in community college… But bulimia prevailed yet again. And again when I was in my early 20s and could barely keep a job. I lived a secret life of shame, even after I began sharing a home with my now husband, I kept my other life hidden. Thats what it had become, a second life where I hid food like like a junky stashing heroine and binged until I couldn’t move all so I could feel that release. Purging was like a drug and I stayed high as a bird. Until one day I found myself standing on the ledge of a building with no wings preparing to leap. It wasn’t until I came crashing to the ground that day (because a stranger grabbed me before I could jump) that I truly knew I was sick.
Im sharing this because when I was 12 or 16 or 22, reading the story of an actual black girl that not only had an eating disorder but fought for her life and won could have changed things for me. I won because I’m still alive and fighting every single day. I have real problems and stress and hard times but I never disappear back into the secret shame. I talk about it, I air it out so that it doesn’t grow like mold in the familiar darkness and and infect my entire life again. I’m a magical Black girl, a unicorn, an artist and entrepreneur a creative thinker and a survivor and I am in my 6th year of recovery from bulimia.
If you can relate to any of this, please don’t give up. Please don’t let the shame convince you that this is your fault. This is an illness and a deadly one that thrives in the darkness. Air it out, let some light in… If I can do it, I know you can too.
If you love colorful dresses, fun prints, whimsical novelty bags and shiny shoes, then you’ve found the right blog! Since the previous sentence pretty much describes my entire closet, places like Modcloth have become among my favorite! They are known for their vintage inspired flair, but I think the best thing about is their clothes is their sense of humor. Did I mention that most of the clothes are available from sizes XS to 4X?! If you’re plus size (like me) you know that words like “fun” and “good fit” are still too rarely mentioned in the same sentence when it comes to fashion.
So if you’re new to Modcloth, or even if you frequently shop their site, I have put together a little lookbook featuring some of my favorite pieces that are perfect for spring(or all year round). Scroll to the bottom of each look and click to shop!
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To see these outfits in action, check out my video and don’t forget to subscribe!
Lets be Frank…. my constantly evolving ability to beat my face has definitely lead me to neglect my skin more than I should. So I’ve decided that 2017 is the year that I will focus more on whats going on underneath the makeup.
I’ve been a fan of Frank Coffee Scrub ever since the first time I tried it on my sensitive dry skin a few years ago.
Shortly thereafter, I started to try it on my face and the fandom quickly turned into an obsession.
It left my skin soft, glowing and feeling like new. I mean you could see a visible difference almost immediately after use.
I loved it, but it wasn’t the most convenient product to work into a face regimen for daily or even every other day use… I mean It’s kind of a mess, which would probably be my only negative feedback for the scrub.
But the the brand totally revels in the idea of getting dirty before you get clean, so I knew what I was getting myself into 🙂 In fact, thats one of the reasons why I tried the scrub o begin with! Frank Body just seemed like a brand that liked to have fun, and honestly thats what I’m all about!
I continued to use the scrub and body balm (which I completely recommend for anyone with sensitive rash prone skin) on an as needed basis.
When they finally came out with products specifically for your face (I think they’ve been out for more than a year or so now) I knew I had to try! I ordered the Sweet Cheeks Kit lickity split! The kit comes with the creamy face cleanser, face scrub and everyday moisturizer.
Honestly, it did not disappoint! Much like my experience with the original coffee scrub, my skin was glowing, well moisturized and noticeably softer after just one use.
You can see more about the my experience with the face range in the video below (Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel)
Check out Frank’s cheeky Instagram @frank_bod (expect lots of pink, playfulness and pretty girls)
Don’t forget to leave a comment and tell me what you think about the products! Be sure to follow me on Instagram as there will be a Frank Body giveaway very soon!
I always try to surround myself with as many rainbows as possible. I’ve always found color to be such a powerful source of positivity and happiness. So naturally when I discovered the these cute shades in rainbow colors by Rainbow OPTX, I was eager to try!
I received 2 full sets in the wayfarer and heart frames… can you guess which one is my favorite?!
They come in 10 beautiful colors, each with a different affirmation and focus to help shift your perspective based on what you need more of in your life.My personal favorite would have to be (surprise surprise) the rose colored lenses… They focus on love and help you purify, open, uplift and awaken and they also make everything you see feel happy and warm…. kind of like your eyes are getting a hug 🙂
My second favorite to experience are the yellow lenses. They have a similar effect to the pink and help you focus on will power. You should wear these when you need to be happy, connect, protect, balance, and purify and to achieve a sense of openness (or like whenever you want :))
It’s such a fun way to add color to your look and even change your mood!
Guess what!? I am offering a special coupon code just for my unicorns. Head to https://rainbowoptx.com and use the code STUDIOMUCCI to get 20% off 4 or more pair (trust me you will want to buy more than 1 because they are already super reasonably priced)
AND we are also giving away two pairs on Instagram. Head over and enter for your chance to win.
Be sure to watch my Rainbow OPTX haul video where you can learn more about each color and my experience with them.
I love Torrid, as I’m sure you know by now! They have some really great stuff this holiday season and here are a few of my favorite looks.
Plus Size Festive date night:
The best thing about this look is how versatile it is. You can obviously wear this outfit (and all of the pieces) any time of year for a bunch of different occasions. AND THIS SKIRT!
But theres something about holiday season that makes me want to add a bit of extra sass to everything I’m wearing.
Plus size 90’s babe: Girls Night Out
I stepped out of my comfort zone a bit with this look and donned a lot of faux leather and black…
but it totally felt like something my older sister would have worn in the 90’s (had she been cooler ;))!
I feel like this would be a great look to go grab drinks with you girlfriends. You can’t tel in this picture but the pants have his pretty delicate glitter which totally gives this edgy look a whimsical feel.
Plus Size Christmas Day: Red plaid and Rose Gold Foil
Honestly I can’t say enough about these pieces! This gold foil skater skirt is so perfect I want it in every color.
I also really love this faux fur collar sweater. It made me feel like John Snow lol!
Plus Size New Years Eve Look
I think for NYE theres only one rule…
You have to sparkle! While, I love a sequin for this task, but I’ve been feeling the metallic foil fabrics lately too.
See these looks in action in my latest video
My fashion goals basically = becoming a cartoon in real life. I think fashion should be fun with a sense of humor and a huge dose of imagination… or honestly whatever the hell makes you feel good. Because being colorful, cartoonish and a little bit ridiculous makes me feel good I am ALWAYS on the hunt for brands that are whimsical and don’t take themselves too seriously. So imagine how stoked I was when I stumbled upon JumpFromPaper on Instagram a couple of years ago.
After everyone figures out that their eyes aren’t deceiving them, (or that I didn’t just draw on a piece of paper and stick it to my back) the first thing they want to know is where I got my backpack from.
Head to https://www.jumpfrompaper.com and enter coupon code BAGCRUSH to get 10% off of your purchase.
Last week I ventured into vintage!
I revisited my time as a moody 90’s teenager (looks like not much has changed)
and twirled back to the 70’s (over a decade before I was born but definitely an era I can dig)
As someone who has OCD I’ve always been somewhat terrified by the idea of using stuff that belonged to someone else. I would hear stories from friends who happened upon these amazing vintage finds. But before I could allow myself to be seduced by tales of five dollar frocks and kitschy cuteness, I would always be snatched back to “reality” by the thought of what kind of animal-hoarder hell those items had previously lived in before being donated or plucked from an estate sale. Did I mention that I also have a slightly overactive imagination?
But still, in the back of my mind, I always knew that there was this whole other magical world of fashion that was waiting for me. If only I could just muster up the courage (and enough hand sanitizer) to take the plunge.
Enter my friend Samantha Kuntz!
A purple haired (depending on when you meet her) spunky vintage maven and creator of the vintage marketplace app Whurl. Whurl can be described as kind of a reverse eBay for vintage lovers! Not only can you both buy and sell items on the app, but you can harness the power of Whurl’s growing supportive online community to help you find the vintage items of your dreams by simply posting an image! Sam has become my official vintage guru by slowly introducing me to pieces via Whurl and somehow its all been working! The true test (of both her patience and my willingness to stretch myself for cute clothes) will be coming soon when Sam and I finally go thrifting IRL!
For now, I was so intrigued by this world of old and new that I decided to share this journey with all of you. I know for many of you who don’t have my germaphobe issues, one of the barriers to shopping vintage has been the sizing. Thats another thing I love about Sam, she’s committed to sharing her love for vintage clothes with everyone and has been really working hard to achieve greater size diversity on Whurl.
So we hung out at her home (which is basically a vintage wonderland) and did a cute little lookbook (sneak peek above) featuring some pieces from Whurl. We also did a haul and giveaway that you won’t want to miss! Most of the items are available for purchase and many of them of are plus size!
You can watch the haul here
Check out the Lookbook!
I recently had a chance to try out popular plus size shopping subscription service Gwynnie Bee! So naturally I did a video talking about the experience and trying on some of my favorite clothes from the website. You can head to my Youtube channel to subscribe or scroll down to check out the video below.
While there were definitely a couple of misses, I am happy to say that there were some pieces that I really fell in love with!
The first was this adorable dress from City Chic! While I ended up ordering the wrong size, I loved it so much that it being a tad big didn’t really stop me from putting on sparkly flats and twirling around DTLA.
This is a great dress for everything from a sunny garden wedding to a night on the town with your favorite date. And I’m obsessed with this amazing Ray Necklace by my friend Mr.Kate! Its the perfect simple piece to pair with a dress like this.
Of course I’ve been dying to find a reason to rock my chill pill bag, and it pairs perfectly with my Kate Spade flats (snagged those 3 years ago)
The other look that I really loved was this flirty little A-line number by Alice & You.
Another really great summery day time option. I would rock this to a nice brunch or afternoon tea! I could also see this as being a cute option to wear if you worked in an office.
I’m obsessed with the bow collar and belled sleeve!
If you liked these dresses, I picked out a few others that you might dig!
Check out my Gwynnie Bee Try on Haul Video!
Rompers are probably one of my favorite things to wear, especially during the summer!
Except for the awkward being topless moment when you have to hit the ladies rooms, I would say its one of the easiest trends to incorporate into your wardrobe. I am always on the hunt for a cute romper! But as I’ve learned on my hunt, there is definitely an art to picking the perfect one for your body type.
I have tried a few this season and this one from Fashion to Figure is definitely a favorite! It meets all the criteria for a great summer romper that will be flattering on many!
1. Its lightweight without being sheer.
2. Versatile, You can wear it three ways (my favorite is off the shoulder.)
3. It has an elasticized waist and is very comfy
4. it comes in 3 colors
5. It’s the perfect length AND it has pockets!
So FTF totally isn’t paying me to make this post btw lol… I just love sharing when I find something really cute! If you have a favorite romper this summer, please share in the comments!