Catching Feelings For Fall With ModCloth

Fall is here! And while everyone else is planning their halloween costumes and o-d-ing on pumpkin flavored everything, I’m typically clinging to my summer wardrobe and trying to decide how early is “too early” to start putting up Christmas decorations.

I wouldn’t say that I hate fall, but its definitely been my least favorite season for as long as I could remember.  Tbh, if it wasn’t for my love of candy corns and my birthday which happens to be on Thanksgiving  I would just “skip” fall altogether.

But just like the seasons, somehow I think my feelings towards fall are finally starting to change… and with all the cute offerings from ModCloth, I will have plenty of playful looks to celebrate my new found affinity for what I used to call “pre Christmas”  lol 

Here are two of the most falliest outfits I’ve ever worn. And if you’re a spring/ summer lover like me, maybe these will get you into the swing of things.

I like to call this outfit my “Casual Pumpkin Patch” look. These photos were taken at Disneyland but I couldn’t imagine a better thing to wear whilst picking out the perfect  “watermelon of fall”.

It all started with this adorable pumpkin print blouse

I initially wanted to style it with a rich jewel-tone colored skirt,  but when I saw these velvety peacock blue overalls, I knew they’d be the perfect pairing! I pulled the look together with fuchsia chucks, minnie mouse ears and this cute pumpkin crossbody bag. 

So for this next outfit, I have to warn you…things get pretty dark! I was really feeling the witchy vibes. And I figured if I was really going to commit to this fall thing, I needed to add more black clothing to my collection and thus what I like to call the “Spooky Spice” look was born.

If this Modcloth “Record Time A-line Dress” doesn’t scream spooky but cute but spooky, I don’t know what does.

This is such a versatile dress that you can totally wear in 70 degree L.A. weather or layer it up if you’re in a place that actually has seasons.

I love a good Fair Isle holiday sweater so I figured this one with skulls would totally increase the creepy factor.

Fall or not, I’m still me, so I had to add at least one pop of color to balance all of this black and white and I figured a classic red accent was the best way to go.  These little red canvas sneakers are also from ModCloth. You can find my spooky bat bag here 

 

While you wont find me gushing over chunky knits, rolling around in pile of leaves or drinking gallons of PSL anytime soon (or ever! Lets be real here). I am so here for all of the fun novelty prints and channeling my inner witch. I mean…  thanks to Modcloth  I did totally double the amount of black clothes in my closet (from two to four).   Lets see if all the cute clothes and fall festivities will keep me distracted long enough to keep my pink christmas tree in storage until after Halloween.

*This blogpost was made in collaboration with ModCloth.

To Be Young, Gifted and Black (While Battling Bulimia.)

The first time that I told my mother that I had an eating disorder was during a therapy session while I was in treatment. I shared that I had been purging since I was 12 and how hard its all been dealing with everything…. I was raw and vulnerable, pouring out my guts and telling all of my painful secrets. Meanwhile, my mother maintained her “we’re in front of company” voice… you know, the one you might hear had she been on a job interview or conducting business over the phone. I could tell how hard it was for her to hear these things for the first time, in front of a stranger, but I had to say the words. I had to tell her “I’m not okay” over and over so that it could be real for the both of us. But we were there in front of my therapist (read nice white girl that seemed a little young) in a nice room, so the best that I could get from my mom was nice. I ugly cried and she was nice, I screamed at her at the top of my lungs (because I clearly must have forgotten myself ) and she continued to be nice, barely raising her voice.

Black girls don’t have eating disorders, at least not in my family. We may eat too much or feel insecure about our weight, but its not really that big of a problem, certainly not an illness. No one ever said those words to me but somehow they were an unspoken part of my narrative, so much so that when I started binging and purging as a preteen I didn’t think anything of it. I was a chubby black girl in a family full of appropriately curvy women and according to my mom ” I was beautiful no matter how much I weighed”

Bulimia just about destroyed my life in every way. I dropped out of high school because I was always “sick” and couldn’t keep up with my advanced classes. By the time I was 17 I had my GED and resolved to make up for my failure by excelling in community college… But bulimia prevailed yet again. And again when I was in my early 20s and could barely keep a job. I lived a secret life of shame, even after I began sharing a home with my now husband, I kept my other life hidden. I resorted to buying edibles online as they were the only thing that could give me some peace by quietening my anxious mind. When I couldn’t access them, I had a second life where I hid food like like a junky stashing heroine and binged until I couldn’t move all so I could feel that release. Purging was like a drug and I stayed high as a bird. Until one day I found myself standing on the ledge of a building with no wings preparing to leap. It wasn’t until I came crashing to the ground that day (because a stranger grabbed me before I could jump) that I truly knew I was sick.

Im sharing this because when I was 12 or 16 or 22, reading the story of an actual black girl that not only had an eating disorder but fought for her life and won could have changed things for me. I won because I’m still alive and fighting every single day. I have real problems and stress and hard times but I never disappear back into the secret shame. Eating disorder treatment is not easy, and no one should have to go through it alone. I talk about it, I air it out so that it doesn’t grow like mold in the familiar darkness and and infect my entire life again. I’m a magical Black girl, a unicorn, an artist and entrepreneur a creative thinker and a survivor and I am in my 6th year of recovery from bulimia.

If you can relate to any of this, please don’t give up. Please don’t let the shame convince you that this is your fault. This is an illness and a deadly one that thrives in the darkness. Air it out, let some light in… If I can do it, I know you can too.

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Plus Size Lookbook Modcloth Spring 2017

If you love colorful dresses, fun prints, whimsical novelty bags and shiny shoes, then you’ve found the right blog! Since the previous sentence pretty much describes my entire closet, places like Modcloth have become among my favorite! They are known for their vintage inspired flair, but I think the best thing about is their clothes is their sense of humor. Did I mention that most of the clothes are available from sizes XS to 4X?!  If you’re plus size (like me) you know that words like “fun” and “good fit” are still too rarely mentioned in the same sentence when it comes to fashion.

So if you’re new to Modcloth, or even if you frequently shop their site, I have put together a little lookbook featuring some of my favorite pieces that are perfect for spring(or all year round). Scroll to the bottom of each look and click to shop!

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To see these outfits in action, check out my video and don’t forget to subscribe!

Fun With Frank Body: Coffee Scrub and Face Range Review

Lets be Frank….  my constantly evolving ability to beat my face has definitely lead me to neglect my skin more than I should. So I’ve decided that 2017 is the year that I will focus more on whats going on underneath the makeup.

I’ve been a fan of Frank Coffee Scrub ever since the first time I tried it on my sensitive dry skin a few years ago.

Shortly thereafter, I started to try it on my face and the fandom quickly turned into an obsession.

It left my skin soft, glowing and feeling like new. I mean you could see a visible difference almost immediately after use.

I loved it, but it wasn’t the most convenient product to work into  a face regimen for daily or even every other day use… I mean It’s kind of a mess, which would probably be my only negative feedback for the scrub.

But the the brand totally revels in the idea of getting dirty before you get clean, so I knew what I was getting myself into 🙂 In fact, thats one of the reasons why I tried the scrub o begin with! Frank Body just seemed like a brand that liked to have fun, and honestly thats what I’m all about!

I continued to use the scrub and body balm (which I completely recommend for anyone with sensitive rash prone skin) on an as needed basis.

When they finally came out with products specifically for your face  (I think they’ve been out for more than a year or so now) I knew I had to try! I ordered the Sweet Cheeks Kit lickity split! The kit comes with the creamy face cleanser, face scrub and  everyday moisturizer.

Honestly, it did not disappoint! Much like my experience with the original coffee scrub, my skin was glowing, well moisturized and noticeably softer after just one use.

You can see more about the my experience with the face range in the video below (Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel)

Check out Frank’s cheeky Instagram @frank_bod (expect lots of pink, playfulness and pretty girls)

Don’t forget to leave a comment and tell me what you think about the products! Be sure to follow me on Instagram as there will be a Frank Body giveaway very soon!